Travel Is an Aphrodisiac if you do it this way


I’d love to travel more, I want to go everywhere in the world but I can’t. You hear this all the time from people who are in relationships with homebodies.

So what? Go anywhere you want, regardless of with or without your partner. And to those who wonder if that might have a negative affect on their relationships, it can be said first hand that it does not! Here’re reasons why:

Longing is a powerful aphrodisiac“You don’t know what you’ve got ’til it’s gone.” Time and distance help you challenge your man more than you do when you two are under the same roof—when you’re apart, you even miss the annoying stuff! If you’re in a healthy, loving relationship, this will happen to you as well. Panoramic views make you miss him—he’s a sucker for a good rooftop vista. But it’s a good kind of missing that brings forth the warm and fuzzy feelings that are the cornerstone of a loving partnership. Oh, and the reunion after time gapart? Great!

Your communication skills get a tune-upBeing distant in both time and distance from your hubs actually compels you to keep in better touch with him. Because you have to make an effort to interact, you both make sure that your messages are meaningful. What works for you: You’ll Whatsapp notes, pictures, and videos, and then you schedule a Skype call every few days. You may not be in the same physical space, but this varied, frequent, and meaningful communication helps you to feel closer than ever.

You have whole new world to explore—literallyBeing attached at the hip with your partner is not only boring, but can trigger a cycle of dependency and insecurity. But when you have your own interests, you become more self confident and self sufficient. Not only that, but talking about what makes you tick—why you couldn’t get enough of Egypt or how the coffee in Italia is super special to the coffee you’ve had anywhere else—allows your conversations to meander into uncharted waters where you both learn something about each other. Bottom line: Travel allows you to discover more of yourself, which you can then share with your love.